Hate and Diplomacy

Hating is a strange element of the constitution of man. Some is understandable,some is illusive, all is destructive.There is the hating borne of some transgression, the hatred borne of jealousy, the hatred borne of association, such as the hating of a race or religion.

The oddest hatred of all is the hate that is generated by the transgressions of the hater. This is the human need to despise he who you have cheated, or lied to, or robbed. It is a trait that, perhaps, acts to protect the perpetrator of such transgression from himself. It is odd, but it is pervasive.

There is a kind of hatred, too that is a byproduct of embarrassment. If I embarrass myself in front of you, I may hate you for seeing my failure or shortfall.Recently a friend, an elected official, told me that someone hated me. It upset me. No one wants to be hated. We all wish to be liked at some level and hate always hurts. I believe that if things are other than how you would have them, it is incumbent on you to make the changes to make those things better. Politics is the vehicle to effect change. I, therefore, involve myself in the political process. Politics, now that is a breeding ground for hate.

What hate does best is to act as a roadblock to discussion, like a virus, replicating and morphing into a disease. The hatred, then, becomes its’ own insulator, polarizing the parties and acting to preclude acts of resolution.

Hate must be addressed face to face. That is how it is beaten. No man ever can hate another who he truly understands. That is a universal truth.With that understanding, Mr. Trump’s openness to discussion with V. Putin becomes a sensible and honorable position. Would any great leader fail to open dialog with another leader of a great power even in the face of significant differences? Was it not the relationship that developed between Mr. Gorbachev and President Reagan that allowed for the wall to come down?

Imagine, if you will, another scenario where Reagan refused to speak to Gorbachev. Surely, we could now be discussing the Third World War.

Discussion and understanding is elemental to politics.It is a greater man who faces his detractor, rather than to retreat and, perhaps, be caught in the same trap. It is easy to hate. It is hard to love and it is hard to understand.

Scott Cahill